Care during Stillbirth

[during the program]

“I'll never forget it, it was after Yom Kippur, a shift that I always do. It was the third birth of this couple, it was the 37th or 38th week of the pregnancy, and the woman stopped feeling fetal movements. During the ultrasound the doctors saw that there were no heart beats. I wasn't there when they gave them the news, but I only at the moment of the birth and a few hours before. I remember my feeling, needing to go into this room. It was so hard. Eventually, I delivered the baby, wrapped him, and put it at his mother's arms. I didn't get a chance to say or do something because I had to move into in the next room and deliver a living baby. A few steps before I entered the next room I remember saying to myself "keep it together!" that's all.”

[after the program]

“Today it's clear to me that as much as I know how to give these women and couples a place for all their emotions and feelings, there's also a place for me. I can just say to myself: "You've been into something sad/hard/unbearable…" this makes a difference. I can go into the next room or come home at a different, more available state. I can identify that I need something, and that's an option, even if it's not possible at that very moment due to my workload